When you are facing a setback, be your own best friend.
You may have heard that before, the latest research shows that you can and really should make the effort to be your own bestie. Self-compassion may be more important than self-esteem. Your self-esteem often hinges on your beliefs of how you are doing compared to others. Self-compassion is about recognizing that you are suffering just like everyone else and that you to deserve kindness. Some people see this as a weakness, but being supportive to ourselves is a great strength. Self-compassion helps us to cope better when going through life’s challenges.
A few suggestions for using sympathetic self-talk.
- Address yourself. Refer to yourself in the second person, as it helps you to step outside the situation. A few examples – ” You’re allowed to your feelings.” ” You’re just feeling the stress of this thing.” “You’re going to be okay.”
- Try a nickname. Call yourself by a term of endearment. It will give you a sense of being cared for by a loving friend. It may feel a little strange, but honey no one will know but you.
- Use a loving gesture. Humans respond to physical touch. Using loving touch can calm you and aid you in talking yourself through a bad moment. Try putting your hand on your heart.