Stressful situations are unavoidable.  Often we increase our stress and hurt with unhealthy thought patterns.  Today, I am sharing a technique called RAIN to help you change those thoughts.

R  When ruminating and worrying stop and recognize the thoughts you are repeating over and over to yourself.  You need to get in touch with what you are telling yourself.

A  Allow the situation to be as it is.  No need to add pain and stress. Your sister said she was sick and couldn’t make it to your party.  This could be true.  No need to start thinking she just didn’t want to come or that this means she doesn’t love you.

I Investigate in a kind matter.  Ask questions of others. Kindly not accusing. Don’t assume you know what is going on with them. Communicate directly with them.

N Practice non-attachment.  Like in the example above, your party isn’t ruined because your sister couldn’t be there. You want her there, but there is no need to become so attached to the idea that you can’t let go and move on.  Stay in the present and enjoy your guests that are there.