We all worry. Some of us more than others. Some of us believe that if we worry it will keep the bad things from happening. I secretly believe that if I worry I will make the bad things happen. My mom would say, “worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want.” UGH! I don’t know about you, but worrying makes me stressed out, nervous, tense, and angry. It is hard not to worry about the future and to stay positive looking forward, while remembering the past. We worry about those we love: children, spouses, elderly parents, and the list goes on. We worry about our jobs, paying the bills, losing face in social situations.
No matter why we worry, what we worry about, or what we believe about worry; we all do it. Oh, what it does to us! How many nights of sleep have you missed? More than you can count? The stress and anxiety causes damage to our mental health and relationships. The constant nervousness and tension can make us physically ill. GI tract problems and heart disease anyone? Then there is the whole self-medicating thing where we try to control the discomfort with alcohol, drugs, sex, or any other activity. Worry is no good for us. What can you do?
If there is nothing you can do about what you are worrying about let it go. Breathe deeply repeating “let it go, let it go.” Imagine it in a big bubble and blow it away. Draw your bubble with your arms, hold your bubble in your hands, imagine the problem inside, and blow it away. You might give it to God. Once isn’t going to do it, because you will keep taking it back. You may have to do these things every 15 minutes until you are able to let go.
If you can do something about what you are worrying about then do it. Spend your time working toward the solution instead of worrying. Make a list of the things you can and need to do. Then start working on the list. Don’t let worry paralyze you. Keep moving!
Don’t Worry! Be Happy! Easy to say and hard to do. No matter what you are probably going to spend 36 minutes a day worrying. Most people do. If it gets worse than that seek counseling. Therapy can help you determine what kind of worry you have. Help you to find a way to let go. Or help you find the steps toward solutions