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Spring Cleaning

You may have all  ready began some spring cleaning.  Maybe cleaning house, dragging stuff out of the garage so you can put the car in, or maybe just finally straightening out a junk drawer.  If so; good for you!

However, I have another type of spring cleaning in mind.  How about letting go of a relationship that holds you back or makes you feel bad about yourself? Just stop calling or inviting.  Stop letting them take up your time.  Don’t include them in everything.  I know you don’t want to hurt their feelings, but what are you doing to yourself by continuing the relationship?  Just because it was once a wonderful friendship doesn’t mean it was meant to be forever. I know you are a loving and giving person, but you still need to set boundaries for you own mental health.

Another closet you may need to clear out is those habits that you have acquired as coping mechanisms.  Yes, they may help you get through the day, but are they harming you?  Too much alcohol may be ruining your relationships or interfering with your work.  Drug usage to the point you are sleeping your life away.  Staying up all night either partying or reading keeps you from enjoying the light of day and all that holds.  Flipping through your phone instead of being with the people you are with damages those relationships.  Playing video games to block out the world works all too well.  Pull back on these activities.  Stop all together if they have become addiction. This can be hard and dirty work requiring the help of friends, family, and professionals.

Clean out those cabinets filled with activities that keep you from following through on your dreams.  Involvement with too many social engagements that you haven’t the time to return to school.  Reading books instead of writing them.  Listening to music instead of practicing your guitar.  Flipping through Pinterest looking for inspiration when you could be crafting, painting, or building.  Give up these activities and starting using the time on the dream.

Lastly that attic full of anger. Being angry all the time is no way to live.  You can straighten out this problem some by getting rid of a few things that add to the issue.  News reporting. Talking to people who drive you crazy.  Being intolerant of the beliefs or behaviors of others. Taking everything personally. This can be heavy work you may need a counselor for help and support.

This spring cleaning often takes all spring, summer, and fall, but it is worth it.  The results can be happiness, better relationships, and work you enjoy.

 

About Geraldine M. Brown (142 Articles)
I hold a Master's Degree in counseling. I am a licensed professional counselor and a licensed independent mental health practitioner. I have over 20 years of experience counseling people from all walks of life.

1 Comment on Spring Cleaning

  1. #mentalhealthspringcleaning #relationships #breakingbadhabits #selfcare

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